Care about Your Relationship: take a new look at your partner
Take a fresh look at your partner. Remember when you looked at your present partner for the first time with interest? Recall those emotions. Perspectives. Hopes. Possibilities. Now you think it’s over. No more original ideas; nothing really exciting. Closed possibilites. Hope, yes, but outside of your relation. Well, why not try to refresh your look. When something looks boring to you, or when you can’t see anything new, it does not necessarily mean that you have examined all the interesting possibilities of the situation you have been in. The same with people. People get mature; they change, often into better, not only into worse. Try to look at him or at her from a new perspective. But, yea, how to do it?
Care About Your Relationship: take a reconstructive look at your rituals
Take a fresh look at your rituals. Everyone has his or her own rituals. Daily. Weekly. Yearly. The breafast you take in the same way at the same time with the same people is a most common type of ritual. They are good for some reasons. For example, they fix you in the structure of the day. But they can become a nightmare when empty inside. When just an activity at some point of time and at a given location. When the ritual, for example, having dinner together, doesn’t mean ‘being together‘ and ‘interacting‘ but rather ‘performing similar activity at one place and at one time’. A good idea is to do something with it.
Care About Your Relationship: make sure you develop in the desired direction
Take a fresh look at your development. I mean yours, your partner’s and, most imporantly now, the development of YOU BOTH. Not just separately, you and your parnter, which is good anyway, but the progress in the way that you share. From time to time it would be good and, yes, refreshing, to see if the direction you and your partner are aiming at is something you really need. Something that was your project years ago may have become just a habit that has lost its vitality. Perhaps you continue it because it’s harder to change something?
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I have a 25 year-long professional experience. It’s mostly as a university professor, but also includes coaching, consulting, and teaching. 35 years of karate as a hobby and the best way of learning self-discipline.