You want to live a better life as everyone else around. But how to live a better life? At various stages of your development. Irrelevantly of your age, of the geographical place your life, and of the type of work you perform. Everybody wants it, but what exactly this means? ‘Better’ means what? More money? more comfort? easier? less trouble? what? It’s important to ask yourself such questions for at least some reasons. One, it will make you realize if you are really having a better life for it often happens that those who have more feel just the opposite. You know, richer societies don’t convert into happier societies just because they are rich. Two, it will give you more information as to how and what to do to make progress in a particular area of living; if you are aware of the fact that you have a better life materially but not emotionally, you will know at least where to work for the betterment of your condition.
How to Live a Better Life? – Comfort
Especially in the commercialized societies, the material position and access to costly comforts is often an indicator of the success and happy life. The question: ‘Are you happy?’ tends to mean ‘have you been materially successful?‘ These things can overlap, but in many cases, it isn’t so. You know what is a ‘rat race’? People are stimulated to run faster in their careers and they become less attentive as to why they are running so fast? To possess numerous things and positions with having no so much satisfaction out of them isn’t a good strategy for a good life, is it? Perhaps a moderate comfort would be the best option, yet what ‘moderate’ is, isn’t so easy to determine for everybody. A modicum of a profound reflection from time to time should be very helpful.
How to Live a Better Life? – Emotions
There may be a strong connection between a materially comfortable life and positive emotional life. You know, you have access to more goods, so you have more positive emotions about it. Well, this is not always the case though. Much depends on the stage of life you are at. Younger people don’t think of a long-term perspective, so emotions they need to fulfill may have a different character than for mature people. Many high emotions of bungee-jumping type rather than emotions about each and everyday development of your passions, especially when not well paid. At some stage of your development you may more seriously think about love, including parental love as the main source of your emotional life.
How to Live a Better Life? – Harmony
A harmonious life and a disharmonious life – you would see the difference in the quality of living at once. Most probably you would vote for the first rather than the second if you could choose the lifestyle for you. A disorganized life may mean various things: private life, when you don’t know what’s the basic meaning of your life because you seem to have too many meanings at hand, and each different; professional life, when you’re troubled by too many projects and not all you like (or you don’t like them because there are too many); social life, when you attend too few or too many events, and this because you aren’t sure what’s your most favourite way of spending free time, etc. Here, I’m stressing the role of internal harmony. You feel good about yourself because you aren’t preoccupied with too many disruptive factors inside; you just follow one general path that you feel is good for your and your relations.
How to Live a Better Life? – Sociability
Sociability may have a tremendous influence on your defining life as ‘better’ or ‘worse. For example, ‘prestige’ you enjoy in a given social group may be more important than the financial status for your and for the members of your community. But instead of this you might prefer being liked by your closest friends, and if you have trouble with fixing the relations of this sort, you’d better think about it. Even you if claim that you don’t care too much, well, in this case it most probably isn’t the case. Depending on your choice, you can direct your attention to getting more and more in your social life according to your preferences but you must be attentive to your real needs and recognize what you really want. Unrealized social needs may become a nightmare someday: when you are old enough to like it and you see that you’ve neglected this area of living and not able to repair it so easily.
How to Live a Better Life? – PRACTICAL EXERCISE
How to know better if you live a better life? Take a sheet of paper and divide it into five columns. Entitle these columns: emotions, harmony, comfort, sociability and….think which will be the title of the fifth column according to your preferences. Then, write, in each column, five facts from your life that, you think, have made your life better for recent five years. The result will show you if you have a justified sense of having a better life. Then, on a separate sheet of paper, you can do something similar with facts that have made your life worse – at the end compare these two sheets of paper and think of a strategy for future according to the results you get.
I have a 25 year-long professional experience. It’s mostly as a university professor, but also includes coaching, consulting, and teaching. 35 years of karate as a hobby and the best way of learning self-discipline.